Oftentimes, we are our own worst enemies. We need to learn how to avoid berating ourselves over mistakes and awkwardness, and instead use what we’ve experienced to help us further ourselves.

Let’s get Serious about this

Remember a little earlier when I gave you a brief outline of how to turn around your impressions of negative experiences, how to STOP thinking of them as negative and turn your attitude around?

Well, here we go again. Only this time, I’m going a little more in-depth. I’m going to give you a whole a step-by-step powerful mental exercise to practice.

I know, you’re getting a lot of these mental exercises, and you should be at just about the stage where your initial enthusiasm is waning, you think you know enough, and you’re ready to put down the advice and forget it half-read, using just what you know so far.

Don’t you do it.

Recommit yourself

Now I don’t mean don’t go out and PRACTICE. That’s HUGE. Book learning can only get you so far – I’d say, tops, understanding the ideas and techniques is 30% of the battle. The rest is real-world testing and honing, making the transition from book-smarts to street smarts. THAT’S the hard part.

So don’t stay at home on a Saturday night forever rereading passages from these posts, thinking you’re getting it when in truth you STILL haven’t got the experience to approach a woman on the street.

You NEED to get out there and do this.

But at the same time, with what you know now, you’ll be better than you were before – probably much better – but nowhere NEAR your full potential. So I want you to take a moment to reaffirm your commitment to this program and promise yourself that you aren’t going to stop until you UNDERSTAND it all and can put what you know into PRACTICE.

If you think the above is a waste of time, take two moments. I’m not kidding.

Alright, now that you’ve breathed pure good feelings knowing that you’re working hard for YOU and YOUR goals, let’s take a look at another exercise.

This one is Reprogramming Your Mistakes.

Reprogramming Your Mistakes

1. Relax, and take a deep breath. Close your eyes and slow your thoughts.

2. Do the Relaxation Exercise to deepen your receptive non-critical state.

3. Think of a mistake you’ve made in the past with women, one you don’t want to repeat.

4. Conjure a specific instance when that mistake hurt your chances with a woman.

5. Now, rewind the tape in your mind to 10 seconds before you committed the gaffe. Freeze it.

6. As an impartial wise observer, whisper in your past self’s ear the advice you need to hear to make the situation turn out right.

7. Press pause again and let the movie play. Notice how differently things play out as your new self uses your advice.

8. Now rewind again and play it forward one more time – only THIS time, insert your current self into the movie. Change from the observer to the participant.

9. Create a vivid world. See, hear, smell everything as it is within the movie. Create the new reality with one crucial difference – it’s occupied by your new self. Make this imaginary world as real as you possibly can.

10. Now imagine a future situation where this situation replays itself. Picture yourself acting in the new way, and observe the positive results that come about.

11. Count to yourself from one to five, saying “Now I will count from one to five, and when I open my eyes I will feel much better than I ever have before… 1… 2… 3… 4… 5.” Open your eyes and write down your experiences from within your created realities.

Enjoy this stuff. After a bit of time, you’ll feel different about EVERYTHING.

Derek

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