I cannot give up my self for you
nor do i want yours.
i cannot change my life's goals for you
nor do i want you to change yours.
what i can do for you, for us, for a relationship consisting of you and me is to be a friend,
companion, lover
A sharer of space and time
A comfort, support, giver.
yet i can only do this if you do the same,
   as a relationship is built of the giving of two.
to be settled and strong in this way
 gives peace of mind and soul,
so energies can be spent on our
purpose and not the constant struggle of surrendering into love.

Of your own free choice you, too,
 must enter this bond - or else
  there is no bond.
it's all the  energies of the universe
   that we are confronting by calling on love.
it takes deep understanding and a strenght so powerful. A commitment of love,purpose, goals
that can be united and seperate- overlapping.
there cannot be anthing less for us.



                                    joni Frankel